Mistletoe: all about the romantic Christmas classic

Do you actually know why we kiss under the mistletoe? It's one of those traditions you just do, like eating oliebollen and complaining about family visits. But the story behind it is actually quite special. And no, it has nothing to do with Mariah Carey. Spoiler alert: the story behind it is even more hilarious than you think.

What is mistletoe anyway?

Mistletoe, or maretak in Dutch, is an evergreen plant that grows on trees. And we mean literally on trees: mistletoe is a so-called semi-parasite. The plant nestles in the branches of deciduous trees like apple trees, poplars, and lindens, where it draws water and nutrients. It sounds a bit nasty, but the plant actually produces its own sugars through photosynthesis. Teamwork, so to speak.

Those characteristic white berries? They're poisonous to humans, by the way, but birds love them. They also help spread the seeds.

From Celtic Druids to Christmas Traditions

Mistletoe has a long and rich history. The Celts considered the plant sacred, especially when it grew on an oak tree. Druids cut the branches with a golden sickle and believed that mistletoe protected against evil and brought infertility. Yes, you read that right: the plant symbolized fertility and vitality.

Mistletoe also plays a key role in Norse mythology. According to legend, the god Baldur was killed by an arrow made of mistletoe. His motherFrigga was so grief-stricken that her tears became white berries. When Baldur returned to life, Frigga declared mistletoe a symbol of love and promised to kiss anyone who stood beneath it. And so a tradition was born.

Why do we kiss under the mistletoe?

The kissing tradition as we know it originated in Victorian England. The rules were simple: if you stood under the mistletoe, you couldn't refuse if someone offered you a kiss. After each kiss, a berry was picked, and once all the berries were gone, the kissing was over.

Quite a clever trick, especially in a time when flirting was much more complicated than it is now. These days, it's primarily a fun, romantic tradition that adds just that little bit of extra Christmas magic to the holidays.

Mistletoe in your own home

Want to hang a branch this year? How fun! Here are a few tips:

You can find real mistletoe at local florists, Christmas markets, or specialty growers. The season is short, usually from late November through Christmas, so be sure to get yours early. A beautiful bunch tied with a (red) ribbon is enough for that festive effect.

Regarding placement: mistletoe is traditionally hung in the doorway, but above the dining table or in the hallway is also suitable. Just make sure it hangs high enough so no one accidentally bumps into it. And keep pets and small children away from those berries; they're definitely not edible.

Prefer to avoid the hassle of real plants? There are beautiful artificial versions available that will last for years. More sustainable and less mess on the floor. This one from Bloompost, for example, not only looks great in your home, but you can also send it as a lovely letterbox gift! Mistletoe | Bloompost €9.99

Small gesture, great atmosphere

What we love about the mistletoe tradition: it's simple, it's romantic, and it creates a moment of connection. A moment of pause, a smile, and a kiss. In the hustle and bustle of the holidays, with all the gifts , all the dinners, all the obligations, that's exactly what we need.

So hang up that mistletoe, enjoy the tradition, and who knows what wonderful moments it will bring. 💋

Oh yeah, and this one...

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