Real is enough, about friendship in a busy schedule

"Slowly losing friends is a part of growing up. We don't lose friends, we just learn who the real ones are." This statement by actor Tom Hardy touches on something many people secretly feel, but aren't quick to express. Because let's be honest: life is constantly evolving. You move, have kids, change jobs... and suddenly you only speak to that old friend through a birthday message on social media. Ouch.

The social media fairytale

On Instagram, it sometimes seems like everyone has a core group of friends they go out with every weekend. Beautiful pictures, cozy terraces, matching outfits—you know the drill. But the reality is often a little different. And you know what? That's okay. You don't have to have ten best friends. You don't have to fill your social calendar every weekend. One or two people you can truly be yourself with are more than enough. In fact, they're worth their weight in gold.

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Friendship evolves

As you grow older, friendships change. The intensity, the frequency, the form—everything shifts a bit with your life. And that's okay. It doesn't mean you're falling short as a friend. It simply means you're growing, and some people no longer fit the version of you you are now.

💛 The great thing is that with truly deep-rooted friendship and appreciation, it doesn't matter if you haven't seen each other for a week or a year. If it's good, you'll click again immediately, without resenting each other.

Small gesture, great value

Time for a reality check: you don't have to spend hours on the phone or have coffee every week to be a good friend. Small gestures can work wonders. Here are a few simple ways to keep your friendships strong, even when your schedule is packed:

1. Send a text or even better, a real card - Just to say, “I was thinking of you.”

2. Plan a mini-date - A morning walk, lunchtime picnic, or coffee after school.

3. Share something that reminded you of her - a song, article, or memory.

4. Be honest - no time is okay. Let her know it's not her fault, but your schedule.

5. Celebrate milestones – Birthdays, new jobs, tough days, let them know you're there.

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You are enough

So, if you're wondering if you have enough friends, consider the people you can truly be with. Those are your people. It's not the quantity, but the quality that counts. And sometimes a long-distance friend, who can sense your heart perfectly, is more valuable than a whole group around you.

Which friend can you let know you're thinking of her today? A small gesture is often the beginning of something big.